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WHAT ARE THE TRAITS THAT ACTUALLY MAKE PEOPLE SEXY?


MOST PEOPLE WOULD DEFINE SEXY AS HOT, TITILLATING, SEDUCTIVE, AND FOCUSED ON SEXUAL DESIRABILITY AND CONQUEST. THEY ACT IN PROVACATIVE, EXCITING, AND TANTALIZING BEHAVIORS THEY DRESS, ACT, AND INTERACT IN WAYS THAT PROCLAIM THEIR DESIRES TO WANT AND BE WANTED. THEY ARE, MEDIA-WISE, SUPER-ATTRACTIVE AND DESIRABLE.

THESE ATTRIBUTES DO NOT USUALLY WEAR WELL OVER TIME AND WORKABLE POPULATIONS SHIFT AND CHANGE

THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO DO NOT NECESSARILY QUALIFY AS SEXY ACCORDING TO THESE CRITERIA BUT ARE CONSIDERED VERY SEXY TO THE PEOPLE WHO ARE IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEM.


YET THEY ARE ABLE TO CONSITENTLY ATTRACT DESIRABLE PARTNERS THROUGHOUT THEIR LIFETIMES. AND THAT DOESN’T MEAN BY MONEY OR STATUS.


WHAT ARE THESE PEOPLE LIKE?

10 EXAMPLES


AN INNATE SENSE OF INTERPERSONAL RHYTHM.

CAN CONNECT AND DISCONNECT, NEVER HOLDING ON TOO LONG OR LETTING GO TO EARLY. FULLY PRESENT AND AVAILABLE WHILE ALSO BEING ABLE TO EASILY WALK AWAY IF THERE IS NOT MUTUAL ATTRACTION, MAKING THEM BOTH COMPELLING AND UNATTACHED AT THE SAME TIME. AT ONCE BOTH AVAILABLE AND MYSTERIOUS.


NO ATTACHMENT TO OUTCOME

SEXY PEOPLE SEEK MAGICAL CONNECTIONS BY ALLOWING THEM TO EVOLVE IN THEIR OWN TIMELESS WAY, AND MUST BE MUTUALLY DESIRABLE. NO BEING ATTACHED TO PRE-SET GOALS OFFERS OPENNESS TO POSSIBILITIES AS THEY ARISE. LOVE AS IF TIME DOESN’T MATTER, REGARDLESS OF OUTCOME.


JUST A LITTLE “OUT OF REACH.”

NON-MANIPULATIVE CENTERED CONFIDENCE. INVOLVED IN THE BEAUTY OF THE PROCESS. NEVER RISK VIOLATING BOUNDARIES ON EITHER SIDE. NEVER TAKE ADVANTAGE OF NEEDINESS. LET TRUST EMERGE WITHOUT URGENCY. NEVER MAKE THE OTHER FEEL ENTRAPPED AND WILL NOT ALLOW ENTRAPMENT.


MISCHIEVOUS SEXY PEOPLE ARE PLAYFUL BUT NOT FRIVOLOUS.

LOVE THE POTENTIAL OF MUTUAL CONNECTION BUT ENJOY THE PROCESS AND HOW IT NATURALLY UNFOLDS. THEY DANCE ALONE OR TOGETHER, BUT THEY ALWAYS DANCE. THEY CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT WHIMSEY, FANTASY AND MAGIC. WHATEVER HAPPENS WILL BE OKAY AND LAUGHTER AND FUN ARE ABOVE ALL.


PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, AND EMOTIONALLY “ALIVE.”

AS FIT AS THEY CAN BE. THEY LIVE IN THEIR BODIES AND TUNE IN TO THE WORLD WITH ALL OF THEIR SENSES. IN TOUCH WITH WHAT ENERGIZES THEM AND ALSO WHAT DRAINS THEM AND KEEPS THAT BALANCE. THEY LOVE TO MOVE, TO EXPERIENCE, TO SEEK, AND TO EXPLORE. THE WORLD IS AN ENTICING PLACE TO THEM, TO FEAST IN LIFE’S ABUNDANCE IN EACH MOMENT. THEY TREASURE THE BEAUTY IN OTHERS.


SAFE HUNTERS

NOT PASSIVE, EVEN IN THE PATIENCE THAT COMES FROM BEING FULLY PRESENT HUNTERS ARE MORE ALIVE AND SEXIER THAN PREY, SO PREY MUST NEVER FEEL HUNTED DOWN. CAN MAKE OTHERS FEEL THE EXCITEMENT OF BEING PURSUED BUT FREE TO ESCAPE AT ANY TIME. THEY CAN PLAY CHASE AND CAPTURE BUT NEVER CHASE AND OWN AND CAN REVERSE THOSE ROLLS EASILY AND WITHOUT CONCERN. THEY KNOW THAT CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED IS PART OF HUMAN NATURE AND THEY CAN PLAY WITH THAT CONCEPT BUT NEVER BE DEFINED BY IT.


CONTENT WITHIN THEMSELVES

SEXY PEOPLE ARE SELF-SUSTAINING WHETHER THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP OR NOT. LOVE MUTUAL AND FULFILLING CONNECTION BUT DON’T NEED IT TO BE OKAY. NO SCORE-KEEPING NO NEED TO WIN NO NEED TO POSSESS OR OWN ANOTHER EASY TO CONNECT WITH BUT HAVE A HIGH PRICE ON THEMSELVES CAN NEGOTIATE BUT NEVER NEED TO CONQUER


ATTUNEMENT - THEY “GET” THE OTHER

THEY INTUITIVELY KNOW WAS THEIR PARTNERS WANT AND NEED’ TRACK THEIR PARTNERS EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, AND SEXUALLY CAN LIVE IN THEIR PARTNER’S REALITY AND KNOW WHAT THEY NEED TO FEEL COMFORTABLE AND DESIRABLE, WANTED, AND RESPECTED CAN COMMUNICATE MUTUAL LOVE AND NEEDS TO MAKE THEIR PARTNERS FEEL SEEN LEARN FROM EACH INTERACTION AND TRANSFORM ACCORDINGLY


NOT FOR SALE

SEXY PEOPLE CANNOT BE COERCED, BLACKMAILED, BOUGHT, CONTROLLED, OR MANIPULATED. THEY ARE NOT ANGRY OR REACTIVE IF SOMEONE TRIES TO DO THOSE BEHAVIORS, JUST NOT RESPONDING TO THE BAIT NEEDING THEM, PURSUING THEM, SEDUCING THEM, TEMPTING THEM, TESTING THEM ARE NOT GAMES THEY’RE WILLING TO PLAY. THEY OWN THEMSELVES BUT ARE OPEN TO PASSIONATELY CONNECT IF THE SITUATIONS IS GOOD FOR BOTH


SEXY PEOPLE CAN’T BE TRAPPED SEXY PEOPLE DON’T PROMISE MORE THAN THEY DELIVER NOR WANT MORE THAN IS RIGHT THEY CAN BE FULLY PRESENT TO WHATEVER THE RELATIONSHIP BRINGS WITHOUT NEEDING TO COMMIT TO WHAT IS NOT YET THERE THEY LIVE TO CREATE WONDERFUL MOMENTS AND LET THOSE BECOME THE RELATIONSHIP ALL LIFE IS MEMORY AND POSSIBILITY AND CREATING BEAUTIFUL MOMENTS DO BOTH

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