Innovative & Exciting Approaches To Every
Facet Of Today's Relationship Dilemmas

How Is Your Relationship Really Doing?

11 subtle warnings. Most intimate couples sense when their relationship is in trouble. When discord is brewing, one or both of the...

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TRAUMA

How Infidelity Causes Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Healing from betrayal. Of all of the threats to a committed relationship I have treated in four decades of working with couples, the most...

When Negative Interactions Trigger Past Traumas

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When Negative Interactions Trigger Past Traumas

There are four consistent truths about intimate partner conflicts. There are four consistent truths about intimate partner conflicts. In...

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When Words Fail: Transform Negative Communication Patterns

Learn to break toxic cycles and rebuild meaningful communication without words. There are reasons why poetry moves us. Masters of the...

How the Most Successful Couples Keep Their Passion Alive

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How the Most Successful Couples Keep Their Passion Alive

How to turn new love's magic into forever love. Passion and sexuality are synonymous experiences for new lovers. The intensity and...

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What Do You Bring to the Dating Table?

A crucial prelude to successful relationships Dating can be stressful under the best of circumstances. Despite the glut of advice for...

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Is Fighting Destroying Your Love? - A Questionnaire

Toxicity and Intimacy Cannot Co-Exist for Long Many intimate partners erroneously believe that their love will always triumph no matter...

I Love You, But I’m Leaving: When Relationships Cost Too Much

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I Love You, But I’m Leaving: When Relationships Cost Too Much

When a relationship’s cost outweighs the benefits, it may be time to leave. All relationships are emotional investments. We choose our...

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Surviving a “Need-to-Win” Partner

When you approach your partner to talk about something that is bothering you, do you find yourself tightening up inside as if you are...

Should You Always Be Honest with Your Partner?

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Should You Always Be Honest with Your Partner?

When openness and diplomacy collide. Most people would agree that being authentic and transparent in interactions with one’s intimate...

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PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION

Dealing With Defensive Walls

What to do when havens become prisons. Very few people escape some form of trauma in their lives. Most survive those personal tragedies...

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How Angry Exes Seek Revenge

The dark sides of love gone wrong. The emotional bond between committed lovers gives each entry into the others’ deepest and most...

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9 Ways Couples Can Fix Broken Communication

7. Forget about always being right. As lack of trust has increased in the world, many people have become more entrenched in their own...

How Do I Know If Therapy Is the Right Choice for Me?

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SELF-KNOWLEDGE

How Do I Know If Therapy Is the Right Choice for Me?

Assess your situation, goals, and therapist fit to decide if therapy is right. Are you facing a crisis and feel you need some objective...

7 Reasons Why People Stay in Unhappy Relationships

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7 Reasons Why People Stay in Unhappy Relationships

2. "This is the best I can hope for." Relationships that are consistently destructive emotionally are much more common than most people...

Grieving Separately: A Dangerous Relationship Chasm

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Grieving Separately: A Dangerous Relationship Chasm

Feelings of sorrow can sometimes shatter a couple's connection. No one escapes loss in his or her life. The anguishing pain of...

How Some People Keep Sabotaging Their Own Relationships

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How Some People Keep Sabotaging Their Own Relationships

... and the importance of committing to connection. Many people ask me why most of their relationships begin with great promise but fall...

4 Most Important Things in Long-Term Intimate Relationships

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4 Most Important Things in Long-Term Intimate Relationships

Successful relationships thrive on trust, teamwork, admiration, and freedom. I’ve spent over four decades helping people create, heal, or...

9 Ways to Tell if a Struggling Relationship Can Heal

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HEALING RELATIONSHIPS

9 Ways to Tell if a Struggling Relationship Can Heal

6. The fear of a forever ending. Sadly, many couples come to see me when their relationship is in trouble. Sometimes, they’ve tried to do...

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5 Reasons Why a Partner Might Withdraw

4. The reemergence of past trauma. Intimate partners create internal maps of how their partners think and feel about themselves and the...

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5 Keys to Dating Re-Entry

4. Model what you want. Learning to live within the confines of the pandemic, many people severely reduced the number of people they hang...

Weaving the Past Into the Present for a Healthy Relationship

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HEALING RELATIONSHIPS

Weaving the Past Into the Present for a Healthy Relationship

This crucial communication skill will help prevent issues from going unresolved. I have often observed a couple in an angry dispute,...

8 Ways Families of Origin Can Disrupt a New Relationship

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8 Ways Families of Origin Can Disrupt a New Relationship

The most common inter-family challenges young partners face. People seeking a successful relationship often do not realize how their...

7 Positive Signs That a Relationship Will Last

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