Relationships Actually | Marriage Counselor & Relationship Expert Dr. Randi Gunther

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Innovative & Exciting Approaches To Every Facet Of Today's Relationship Dilemmas

Randi Gunther, Ph.D.
Author, Clinical Psychologist, & Marriage Counselor

ARTICLES

Welcome to this new web site devoted exclusively to offering all of the articles I’ve been writing for Psychology Today online over the past several years. As of 2022, there are over two-hundred, and a new one will appear every two weeks. They cover every facet of how relationships form, how they develop over time, and how and why they succeed or flounder.

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DATING

5 Keys to Dating Re-Entry

4. Model what you want. Learning to live within the confines of the pandemic, many people severely reduced the number of people they hang...

Weaving the Past Into the Present for a Healthy Relationship

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HEALING RELATIONSHIPS

Weaving the Past Into the Present for a Healthy Relationship

This crucial communication skill will help prevent issues from going unresolved. I have often observed a couple in an angry dispute,...

8 Ways Families of Origin Can Disrupt a New Relationship

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DATING

8 Ways Families of Origin Can Disrupt a New Relationship

The most common inter-family challenges young partners face. People seeking a successful relationship often do not realize how their...

7 Positive Signs That a Relationship Will Last

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DATING

7 Positive Signs That a Relationship Will Last

Safety, comfort, and emerging chivalry. New love is fragile and resilient . Partners in the initial stages of an intimate relationship...

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DATING

Does Keeping You Mean Losing Me?

Are you in danger of losing yourself to stay in a relationship? In the early stages of a relationship, most people do everything they can...

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COMMUNICATION

Do You Spill Your Partner’s Secrets?

How couples go after each other with accusatory and invalidating expressions. When couples first come into therapy , I expect each to go...

You’re Gone. What Is Keeping Me from Moving On?

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BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS

You’re Gone. What Is Keeping Me from Moving On?

The sorrow of unrequited love is not easy for anyone to live through. Living through the sorrow of unrequited love is not easy,...

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DATING

Putting Relationships First?

It may not always be the best way to live your life. Many people have told me how they are rethinking their investments in intimate...

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DATING

Scheduling Love: Can Romance Survive?

Six possible behaviors you can implement for lasting love. Romance, in its most classic form, requires the availability of spontaneity...

8 Reasons People Stay in Harmful Relationships

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BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS

8 Reasons People Stay in Harmful Relationships

6. Fear of not being needed. I have listened to many people ask this question. They know they are being taken advantage of by their...

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DATING

Sham Apologies and How They Erode Trust

4 steps to change those behaviors, benefitting both your partner and yourself. What small child in the world has not heard the words,...

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TRAUMA

"Am I Safe With You?"

The challenge of traumatic regression. During the four decades I’ve practiced relationship therapy , I’ve had the same questions asked of...

Is There Any Way I Can Know if Our Love Will Last?

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DATING

Is There Any Way I Can Know if Our Love Will Last?

Love is impossible to intentionally create, control, or predict. Love is a fragile and vulnerable state of being and can manifest in...

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DATING

Yo-Yo Relationship Patterns

How to deal with the fear of permanent attachment. Have you been in love with the same person for a long time but keep breaking off the...

The 10 Most Common Categories of Sexual Desire

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SEXUALITY

The 10 Most Common Categories of Sexual Desire

Why self-acceptance is important in sexuality. I am a licensed relationship counselor, clinical psychologist, and certified sex...

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How Guilt Can Destroy Relationship Intimacy

Relationships do not fare well when transactional patterns emerge. People of all ages feel guilty when they fear that they are not...

The 11 Most Desirable Qualities in a Partner

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DATING

The 11 Most Desirable Qualities in a Partner

Accountability, translucence, chivalry, and more. Throughout my long career as a psychologist and marriage counselor, I have carefully...

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COMMUNICATION

The Most Crucial Skill Sets for Successful Communication

Good communication depends on two skill sets that can be mastered. I have spent more than four decades teaching basic communication...

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Do You Know Who You’re Dating?

7 successful ways to find "missing footprints." When people grow up with the same friends and families that are intertwined, they leave...

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DATING

Authentic Dating Profiles: Who You Really Are

Present the reality of who you are with self-compassion and respect. Over the last couple of decades, my patients have often brought me...

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BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS

10 Behaviors That Can Push People Away

4. Endless rehashing. Whether due to media advice or social pressures, most people strive to present what are their most desirable and...

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How One Intimate Partner Can Sabotage Relationship Rehab

Here are eight common behaviors that characterize unconscious sabotage. Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows that they...

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How to Create a Meaningful Interaction on a First Date

When getting to know someone, people can be hesitant to show their true selves. People usually communicate in layers of increasing...

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8 Things Intimate Relationships Are Not Supposed to Be

2. An exploitation of vulnerability. To keep a relationship thriving, intimate partners make sure they do not betray, that they work as a...

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ABOUT

Dr. Randi Gunther has spent over four decades working with couples and individuals to help them build long-lasting and successful relationships. She has accumulated over 100,000 hours of face-to-face hours with her patients, along with reaching more than 14,000,000 people with her books, and articles. She practices in Southern California.

Learn More

Dr. Gunther is available by Zoom or Facetime

Email: randigunther@cox.net

Cell: 310-971-0228

Office: 2075 Palos Verdes Dr N, Lomita, CA 90717

Hours : By Appointment Only

Innovative & Exciting Approaches To Every Facet Of Today's Relationship Dilemmas

Randi Gunther, Ph.D. Author, Clinical Psychologist, & Marriage Counselor

ARTICLES

ABOUT

Randi Gunther, Ph.D.
Author, Clinical Psychologist, & Marriage Counselor